Updated: May 21, 2019
As a Mum you often hear the word 'milestone' come up with reference to your kids and their experiences. 'Milestone Moments' - those key points along the path that we as parents are striving for our kids to hit. First teeth, first words, first steps. These markers have us always looking ahead. What is their next milestone? First day of kindy, first day of school, first school award, first sports competition. We briefly celebrate it, and then we capture it- put it on social media of course- and then start aiming for the next one. Repeat. And repeat.
It is no wonder then, as we turn into adults we are always striving to hit the next milestone. Unfortunately our milestones aren’t so easily achievable as adults and aren’t nearly as close together. Adult milestones might include: getting your dream job, getting engaged and married, buying a house, having a child, turning 40, running a half-marathon, turning 50, turning 60, retiring.
Okay, so while there is nothing inherently bad about milestones in life I’m going to put myself out there and say I don’t like them. I think milestones create a bit of madness in our lives. The feeling that comes with hitting a milestone is joyous, but fleeting. Fleeting because a milestone usually means we are starting a new chapter and that new chapter is all about heading towards another milestone. How many people have been asked within weeks of getting married how soon they plan to have children? Like- ahem…can’t you just let me bask in this moment for 5 minutes without having to think about warming up my ovaries!!
We get so focused on looking ahead and striving for the next milestone that we forget to enjoy our day-to-day lives. We are so intent on making it to that next marker, preferably before our friends that we forget to stop and look around once in a while.
Buying a house will feel awesome, but so will being able to eat $30 smashed-avocado on toast at your local café because you don’t have to think about this month’s mortgage payment. Having kids is brilliant, when you get there, but once you’re there you can’t put them back in so enjoy each and every day that you can sleep-in, have kid-free dining and not cause yourself immense pain by stepping on rogue Lego pieces.
I’m sure retirement is amazing, but I don’t want to be so focused on it, that I forget to really enjoy all the days, weeks and years leading up to that point. I'm putting milestones on hold for a while and just focusing on enjoying my day - everyday.